Never been a fan of posting in this section as most posts I read usually become a comedic disaster, however I feel like I need some female perspective (especially from those over 24) and there's no place online I can think of with more female readership...
I've been living with three others (two males, one female) for about two months now. Things are starting to become slightly awkward.
We've got a good vibe in the house and everyone hangs out with everyone. Not sure what it is, but lately my girlfriend has been giving me a hard time about hanging out with the female roommate (whom I've always viewed as just another guy). I guess what triggered it was when we were all at a basketball game and the roommate drank out of my beer. GF didn't like that.
Since then, I've had to be semi-cautious, but last night flipped the switch. I got home late from a work meeting/dinner and my roommate and I were talking in the kitchen about movies as I was putting away the to-go box and it came up that I have not seen, "When Harry Met Sally." So we decided to watch the movie. Well.... my girlfriend flipped out after hearing about this, "you watched a romantic comedy with XXXXX?!"
I told her I never thought anything of it and that it wasn't a big deal, but she wasn't having it and after an hour long discussion, she told me I just didn't get it.
Even though I don't fully get it, out of respect I'll probably attempt to avoid doing anything that would make my GF uncomfortable. In four years of dating, I've never hidden anything nor lied about ANYTHING to her, so I'm not sure why this is such a big issue. However, I'm not sure what's acceptable and not acceptable at the moment. It sounds like I should avoid any type of activity where it is just me and the roommate. I'm not sure how to handle the situation though. My GF does not want me telling the roommate upfront about the situation which makes things more difficult. My roommate and I sometimes go to the gym together, so if she asks if we are going to the gym, what do I respond with? If she's watching TV, am I not supposed to sit down and watch tv unless other people are there? I'm going to be living with this person for the next ten months...
I'm not really looking for advice as in "oh your girlfriend sounds like a terrible person, why you dating her? (because honestly, I'm telling you an isolated situation, you don't know her enough to make that call)." What I'm kind of looking for is perspective, how you would feel if you were in the situation, or any insight into the situation that I may be missing.
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